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Listen Again: 12 Nuggets of Wisdom: Reflecting On A Year of Coaching

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to work with a coach for a year?
This episode is a little different. This is a replay of a conversation between my client Jessie Ellertson and me, where I was a guest on her podcast. 
Jessie is a life coach herself and she’s been my client for about a year. In this episode we talk about the top 12 lessons learned she’s had as takeaways during our work together. 
We talk about everything from how to view invisible progress to handling vacations and holidays to addressing even deeper beliefs about identity and how we want to show up for ourselves in this life. 
It was so much fun to recap a year of coaching with Jessie and I am so glad I get to share it with you. 
We've got a year's worth of wisdom packed into this episode, and the journey's just getting started!
Are ya ready for the rocket ride? Aw yeah! Let’s go! 
Jessie Ellertson is a  Military Wife Life Coach. She helps military wives experience peace, love, and JOY while dealing with deployment. You can learn more about her at her website https://www.simplyresilient.net/.
And be sure to check out her podcast, The Simply Resilient - A Podcast For Military Wives. 
Learn more!
www.confidentbody.coach
You Are A Miracle book
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Listen Again: The Good, the Bad, and the Judgy - Exploring Our Inner Judgments

Have you ever found yourself in a public place and a random stranger walks by and out of nowhere a super judgy thought pops in your brain. “Why would she wear that? Didn’t she look in the mirror this morning? At least I don’t weigh that much.” And then you think “What is wrong with me? Who thinks like that about other people?”
Or maybe you find yourself in a situation where you're just dying for someone close to you to make a different choice? Maybe it's your friend, your partner, or even your parents. You think “If he’d just lose a little weight…. If she just noticed all I do….. Why do they always have to SAY those things?”
You just KNOW that if they made that one little change, - do something different, say something different, act different, BE different - everything would be better. Or at least YOUR life would be better. 
We're talking about those moments when I’m biting your tongue, trying to keep from blurting out, "Why can't they just see what I see?!"
We've all been there. And it's totally normal! That feeling can come from a place of wanting the best for others, but it comes off feeling victimy and angry. The tricky part is that sometimes, it can leave us feeling a little guilty and empty, like they’re not measuring up or not being who we want them to be.
And then we end up judging ourselves for judging them. Ugh! 
So, what do we do? Do we just bite our tongue and keep those feelings buried inside? Or is there another way? A way that allows us to be true to ourselves and our feelings, while also honoring and respecting those we love so much?
In today's episode, we're going to dive deep into this thorny topic of judging ourselves and those closest to us. We'll explore why it happens, how it feels, and most importantly, how to move through it with grace and love.
Are you ready to peel back the layers of judgment and uncover the truth beneath? 
 
Aw yeah!
Learn more!
www.confidentbody.coach
You Are A Miracle book
https://confidentbody.coach/tips/

Are You Measuring Your Worth by Your To-Do List?

Have you ever felt like your entire sense of worth comes from how much you’re doing for others?
Like, if you’re not constantly checking things off your list, making meals, running errands, or solving everyone else’s problems, then… what’s your purpose?
And if you do take a moment for yourself—just to sit, breathe, maybe even (gasp!) relax—you feel a wave of guilt because shouldn’t you be doing something?
That’s exactly what we’re talking about today. We’ll unpack:
Why it’s so hard to take time for yourself without guilt.
How resentment might actually be pointing to what you really want.
And how to find your worth beyond being “needed.”
So, are you ready to reclaim your rest, redefine your worth, and release the pressure to do it all?
 
Aw yeah ya are! Let’s go!
https://confidentbody.coach/tips/
BOOK: You Are A Miracle 
 

Self-Doubt Isn’t the Problem—What You Do With It Is

Have you ever felt like you were the only one struggling with weight loss while everyone else seemed to have it all figured out? Maybe you’ve thought, If I really wanted this, I’d be doing better by now. Or Why is it so easy for them, but I keep messing up?
Or Have you ever set your sights on something exciting—maybe a new job, a passion project, or even a new relationship—only to feel that voice creep in and say, “Who am I to do this?” That’s the sneaky little bugger we call imposter syndrome. And oh, does it love to mess with our heads
Now, let me ask you this—what if those thoughts weren’t facts? What if that self-doubt, that comparison, that imposter syndrome wasn’t a sign that you’re failing but just a normal part of the process?
Today, we’re diving into why imposter syndrome and self-doubt show up in weight loss, why waiting to feel ready is a trap, and how to stop comparison from stealing your progress. We’ll cover:
Why self-doubt doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re human.
How doubt and action can coexist (yes, you can feel unsure and still make progress).
The sneaky way comparison makes you feel like a failure and how to flip it to fuel your success.
A lot of times imposter syndrome whispers “Who am I to do this?”. Well by the end of this episode, I hope you’ll be thinking “Who am I NOT to?”
If self-doubt and comparison have been steering your journey, it’s time to take back the wheel. Are you ready to stop letting self-doubt and comparison call the shots?
Aw yeah ya are! Let’s go!
https://confidentbody.coach/tips/
BOOK: You Are A Miracle 
 

You Are Not Your Mistakes

Have you ever felt like guilt and shame were your constant companions on your weight loss journey? Like no matter how much progress you make, there's always that voice in the back of your mind saying, “It’s not enough”?
Or maybe you’ve wondered, How do I even begin forgiving myself for all the things I’ve done or all the times I’ve “failed” in the past?
If this sounds familiar, then today’s episode is just for you. My guest, Debbie Lurvey, is a life coach and weight loss coach who has been through her own incredible journey of losing 100 pounds.
But here’s the thing—it wasn’t just about the weight. Debbie discovered that the key to lasting change wasn’t more willpower or stricter rules. It was compassion, forgiveness, and learning to trust herself again.
In this episode, we’ll cover:
How guilt and shame can hold us back from real progress.
The life-changing power of self-forgiveness.
Practical tools to get started, no matter where you are today.
Are you ready to ditch the guilt, embrace your imperfections, and start loving yourself while making real progress? Then let’s dive in!
 
https://confidentbody.coach/tips/
BOOK: You Are A Miracle 
Learn more about Debbie at https://www.debbielurveycoaching.com/
April and Debbie Dish on the Truth About Weight Loss

How Old Stories Keep Us Stuck and What to Do About It

Have you ever found yourself saying, ‘I’ve tried everything, and nothing works’? Maybe you’ve been on this rollercoaster for years—you start with the best intentions, make a little progress, and then somehow, it all falls apart. Before you know it, you’re back where you started, wondering what went wrong. It’s frustrating, it’s exhausting, and honestly? It makes you want to throw in the towel and say, ‘What’s the point?’ Sound familiar?
But what if the real problem isn’t you? What if it’s the story you’ve been telling yourself about who you are and what you’re capable of? What if this old, worn-out script—things like ‘I always fail’ or ‘This is just how I am’—isn’t true at all, but it’s the very thing keeping you stuck?
In today’s episode, we’re going to unpack how these old stories take root in our minds, why they feel so safe and familiar (even when they’re holding us back), and most importantly, how to rewrite your narrative so you can finally start moving forward. I’ll share practical steps to shift your mindset and show you how small changes can lead to big breakthroughs.
So, are you ready to let go of the stories that no longer serve you and uncover fresh possibilities for your future?
Let’s go!
https://confidentbody.coach/tips/
BOOK: You Are A Miracle

Why the Scale Feels Stuck—and How to Move Forward

Have you ever stood on the scale and thought, "How is this even possible?" You’ve been eating pretty well—sure, there are treats here and there—but nothing extreme, right? Yet, the number keeps creeping up. It feels unfair, frustrating, and honestly, a little defeating.
Do you find yourself thinking, "I shouldn’t weigh this much. I haven’t done anything wrong!"? It’s a thought that seems innocent enough, but it might be holding you back more than you realize.
In today’s episode, we’ll explore:
Why that “I shouldn’t weigh this much” thought feels so valid, but also why it backfires.
The sneaky ways it can keep you stuck.
And how you can shift your thinking toward a more empowering narrative—one that helps you take control and start moving forward.
So, are you ready to release resistance, reframe your reality, and reclaim your confidence? Let’s dive in!
 
https://confidentbody.coach/tips/
BOOK: You Are A Miracle 

Stop Waiting to Live Your Life

Have you ever found yourself standing on the scale, holding your breath, as if that number could somehow declare your worth? Maybe you’ve thought, “If I could just lose these last 10 pounds, then I’d finally feel confident, happy, or good enough.”
But let me ask you this: At the end of your life, do you think anyone—your kids, your partner, your best friend—will sit around reminiscing about what you weighed? Or will they remember the way you made them laugh so hard they couldn’t breathe, the warmth of your hugs, and the memories you created together?
Here’s the thing: when we fixate on the scale, we miss out on the life that’s happening right now. We pour so much energy into what we’re not—not skinny enough, not fit enough, not “there” yet—that we forget to appreciate everything we are. It’s like spending your entire road trip staring at the GPS and grumbling about how far you still have to go, instead of looking out the window at the breathtaking scenery all around you.
What’s worse, constantly focusing on where you’re not actually makes the journey harder and longer. Why? Because when you’re fixated on your perceived shortcomings, it’s exhausting and discouraging. That mental weight can keep you stuck, feeling like progress is out of reach.
In today’s episode, we’re unpacking what really matters in life. Weight loss isn’t the destination—it’s just one of many tools you can use to build a life you love. We’ll talk about:
How to start living fully today, no matter your size.
Why being present beats striving for perfection every single time.
And how letting go of your obsession with the scale can create more space for joy, connection, and freedom.
So, are you ready to shift your mindset, savoring the moment, and celebrating what truly matters?
Let’s go! 
https://confidentbody.coach/tips/
BOOK: You Are A Miracle

The 3-Step Framework You Can Use to Lose All the Weight You Want

Have you ever felt like the minute you stop dieting, all bets are off, and suddenly your “normal” way of eating feels like a free-for-all buffet? Maybe you’ve wondered, “Why does eating healthy always feel like a punishment, and when will it ever feel… well, normal?”
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone! The secret to lasting weight loss isn’t another diet or a magical quick fix—it’s changing what “normal” eating looks like for you, little by little, over time.
In today’s episode, we’ll cover:
How to shift your mindset about food without feeling deprived.
A 3-step framework that you can use to lose all the weight you want.
And the magic of small changes that stick for life!
Ready to turn the “diet cycle” into a thing of the past and finally feel confident in your choices? Aw yeah, let’s go! 
 
https://confidentbody.coach/tips/
BOOK: You Are A Miracle 

5 Mistakes of Goal-Setting That Sabotage Success (And What to Do Instead!)

Have you ever set a New Year’s resolution or goal with the best of intentions—thinking, This is the year I finally get it together—only to feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like you’re not making any progress by mid-January?
What if the problem isn’t you, but the way you’re setting your goals? What if typical goal-setting strategies—like going big, going hard, or going all-in—are incomplete at best, and broken at worst?
In today’s episode, we’re diving into the five most common mistakes people make when setting goals. We’ll cover things like why knowing your “why” is essential, how too many goals can derail your progress, and why the size of your goal matters more than you think. Plus, I’ll share practical tips to help you set goals that inspire you and actually stick.
So, are you ready to ditch frustration and start the year with goals that work for you, not against you?
Let’s go! 
 
https://confidentbody.coach/tips/
BOOK: You Are A Miracle