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I just want to eat whatever I want, whenever I want

Have you ever found yourself thinking “I just wish I could eat whatever I want, whenever I want”? 
 
Maybe you even remember a time when that seemed to be true. Ah the good ol’ days. Isn’t it funny how we seem to remember the past with rose colored glasses?
But now a’days, if you even look at a hamburger you’ll put on 5 pounds. Ugh! 
 
Today we're diving deep into that burning question: "Why can't I eat whatever I want, whenever I want?” We’ll talk about why it makes sense that we think this way and explore why our desires may be more complex than just satisfying a craving.
 
We’re gonna bust through some of the excuses your brain gives and discover that what you actually want, may be different than you think. 
 
So, are you ready to wander into the wilderness of your mind and wonder about that wish of wanting to eat whatever you want, whenever you want it? 
 
 Ah yeah! Let’s go!
 
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The Tyranny of the Shoulds

Have you ever found yourself trapped in the endless cycle of "shoulds"? You know, those nagging thoughts that tell you what you should be doing, how you should look, and who you should be? It's like having a not-so-helpful, naggy backseat driver living in your head, right?
But here's the kicker: does listening to those "shoulds" actually get you anywhere? Or do they just slow you down, leaving you feeling guilty and stuck?
In today's episode, we're diving headfirst into the murky waters of those "shoulds" swimming around in your head. We'll explore why we're so afraid of trying and failing, and how we can start to break free from the guilt they bring.
Today we’re gonna uncover the secrets to noticing and depersonalizing those "should" thoughts, and learn how to question them like a pro - or even - a hero. Plus, we'll sprinkle in some wisdom from voices you respect, helping you see those "shoulds" in a whole new light.
So, are you ready to shake off the shackles of the shoulds and choose your own path forward? 
Aw yeah! Let’s go!
 
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Secrets Keep You Sick - Interview with Yvette Salva

Have you ever found yourself thinking ahead to when no one will be home and you can eat whatever you want - or how much of whatever you want - in secret without anyone to see? Maybe you wait till everyone is in bed, or you “do good” while you’re at work when others can see. But when you get home and you’re by yourself, it’s a different story. That can bring on so much shame. 
The same can be true of drinking. One of my most shameful things from the past has been drinking more when I’m alone than when I’m with other people. The self loathing that can breed in the cover of darkness is intense. 
So today we are peeling back the layers of shame and secrecy with a special guest, my friend and fellow life coach, Yvette Salva. 
We explore her story of inner turmoil of leading a life as a fitness professional on display in the front of the room, while hiding painful secrets of anorexia, bulimia, alcoholism and addiction.  
In this episode, we'll cover the raw reality of hitting rock bottom, feeling addicted, and struggling to break free from the shame spiral. 
Yvette and I cover specific steps to go from feeling addicted to food and destructive behaviors to creating intentional systems that set you up for success. 
And at the root of it all is learning to love yourself on the inside first. 
One quick heads up: There is some adult language in this episode. I always tell you that the world needs more YOU. That you are meant to shine your light exactly as you are. And Yvette is New Jersey strong and brings it with some sassy language. So if you’ve got little ears in the car, maybe hit pause and come back to this episode a little later. And when you do, you’re in for some real talk and truth bombs. 
Are you ready to peel back the layers and break free from the shackles of shame? 
 
Aw yeah! Buckle up, buttercup!
 
Yvette Salva is a personal trainer and life coach who helps empower women to lead a healthy life. 
You can learn more about Yvette at her website https://yvettesalvafitness.com/.
Or click the links to find her on Facebook and Instagram and YouTube. 
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Letting Go To Step Into Who You Can Be

Have you ever felt like there’s more inside you that you’re not tapping into? Like  you're standing in the shadows of your own potential, afraid to step into the spotlight for fear of judgment? That nagging voice in your head says, “I know there’s more for me than this. There’s more I can do or give.” and at the same time that voice says "What will they think if I am truly me?"
Today I’d like to share with you a story from a recent experience I had with a group of amazing coaching professionals and how it relates to you diving into the heart of that struggle between insecurities and imposter syndrome and being your most authentic self, radiating with confidence and owning your innate talents like a boss.
In this episode, we’re talking about tapping into your inner wisdom and embracing your own uniqueness and shining bright  like you were always meant to -  exactly as you are.
So, are you ready to fire up your inner lighthouse and light up the world? 
Aw yeah! Here we go!
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You Are A Miracle book

I Feel Like I'm Not Enough

Have you ever found yourself in a relentless pursuit, chasing the ghost of "enoughness" with every step you take? Like no matter how much you hustle and strive, that bucket of worthiness never seems to fill up?  It's like running on a treadmill, right? No matter how fast you go, you never quite reach your destination.
In this episode, we're peeling back the layers of the "not enough" syndrome that plagues so many of us. From societal pressures to our own inner critics, we'll explore the root cause of why we base our worth on external measures, leaving us perpetually unsatisfied.
What if I told you that your worth isn't something you need to constantly hustle for? What if I said it's already there, nestled within you like a hidden gem waiting to be discovered?
It's time to break free from the cycle of striving and embrace the truth that you are already whole. 
So, are you ready to stop chasing enough and rewrite your narrative?
Aw, yeah! 
 
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You Are A Miracle book

12 Nuggets of Wisdom: Reflecting On A Year of Coaching with My Client Jessie Ellertson

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to work with a coach for a year?
This episode is a little different. This is a replay of a conversation between my client Jessie Ellertson and me, where I was a guest on her podcast. 
Jessie is a life coach herself and she’s been my client for about a year. In this episode we talk about the top 12 lessons learned she’s had as takeaways during our work together. 
We talk about everything from how to view invisible progress to handling vacations and holidays to addressing even deeper beliefs about identity and how we want to show up for ourselves in this life. 
It was so much fun to recap a year of coaching with Jessie and I am so glad I get to share it with you. 
We've got a year's worth of wisdom packed into this episode, and the journey's just getting started!
Are ya ready for the rocket ride? Aw yeah! Let’s go! 
Jessie Ellertson is a  Military Wife Life Coach. She helps military wives experience peace, love, and JOY while dealing with deployment. You can learn more about her at her website https://www.simplyresilient.net/.
And be sure to check out her podcast, The Simply Resilient - A Podcast For Military Wives. 
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The Good, the Bad, and the Judgy: Exploring Our Inner Judgments

Have you ever found yourself in a public place and a random stranger walks by and out of nowhere a super judgy thought pops in your brain. “Why would she wear that? Didn’t she look in the mirror this morning? At least I don’t weigh that much.” And then you think “What is wrong with me? Who thinks like that about other people?”
Or maybe you find yourself in a situation where you're just dying for someone close to you to make a different choice? Maybe it's your friend, your partner, or even your parents. You think “If he’d just lose a little weight…. If she just noticed all I do….. Why do they always have to SAY those things?”
You just KNOW that if they made that one little change, - do something different, say something different, act different, BE different - everything would be better. Or at least YOUR life would be better. 
We're talking about those moments when I’m biting your tongue, trying to keep from blurting out, "Why can't they just see what I see?!"
We've all been there. And it's totally normal! That feeling can come from a place of wanting the best for others, but it comes off feeling victimy and angry. The tricky part is that sometimes, it can leave us feeling a little guilty and empty, like they’re not measuring up or not being who we want them to be.
And then we end up judging ourselves for judging them. Ugh! 
So, what do we do? Do we just bite our tongue and keep those feelings buried inside? Or is there another way? A way that allows us to be true to ourselves and our feelings, while also honoring and respecting those we love so much?
In today's episode, we're going to dive deep into this thorny topic of judging ourselves and those closest to us. We'll explore why it happens, how it feels, and most importantly, how to move through it with grace and love.
Are you ready to peel back the layers of judgment and uncover the truth beneath? 
 
Aw yeah!
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You Are A Miracle book

Falling Off the Wagon - A Different Perspective

Have you ever had one of those days when your diet plan feels more like a distant memory than a reality? You know, the ones where that innocent-looking cookie led to a full-blown snack attack, and suddenly, you're knee-deep in a bag of potato chips?
I so get it. We've all been there, and let's face it, life happens. Those moments of "diet destruction" might just be your secret sauce to success!
Why does going off your plan have to feel like such a train wreck?
In today's episode, we're peeling back the layers of those off plan moments when you feel like the whole day is wrecked and you might as well just enjoy yourself. 
We'll cover why we feel the pressure to be perfect on our weight loss journeys,
how diets set us up for failure, 
and most importantly, the golden nugget hidden within those off-plan moments! 
Get ready to unlock the power of these "diet detours" because they are gifts filled with so much valuable information - if you can just get curious enough to let the learning in. 
Are you ready to turn those setbacks into setups for success? 
Let's do this!
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You Are A Miracle book

What's the Point?

Have you ever found yourself on that rollercoaster of diets, calorie counting, feeling like you're trapped in a numbers game, fixated on what that scale says? You’ve been at it for a few weeks and maybe the scale has moved a little, but really not nearly like you expected. And you’re starting to get frustrated. And maybe you have a weekend or a night out where you didn’t stay totally on plan and all the work you put in to lose 1.7 pounds feels like it gets erased.
You find yourself staring at the scale, wondering, "What's the point of all this effort if the numbers aren't budging?"
 
Today we’re talking about answering that question. What IS the point of taking care of yourself and making the effort for yourself whether or not you lose weight.
 
We’ve all been there – staring at the scale and feeling like it is the ultimate arbiter of our success. what if I told you that the real magic isn't in the digits on the scale?
Think about it – when you do something nice for someone you love, it's not about expecting something in return, right? Well, the same goes for your body. It's time to shift the focus from numbers to feelings and establish a loving relationship with yourself.
 
So today, we’re answering that question. The one the voice inside your head whispers when it says “what’s the point of all this effort anyway if the scale isn’t moving?”
 
Are you prepared to pivot your perspective on the whys behind wanting the weight loss process, and willing to wonder about creating a relationship with yourself and your body beyond the scale?
 
Aw yeah! Let’s get after it!
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You Are A Miracle book

I want to NOT want it

Have you ever had a specific food that just feels like it has a little more power over you than you do over it?
Like there are some foods that you can just take it or leave but there are others that you’re like “you’ll have to pry it from my cold dead fingers.”
And yet on the inside, you’re maybe a teensy bit scared that this food is more in control of you than you are of it? 
Today we’re going to talk about what to do when you get to a place where just want to NOT want it. And how to take baby steps towards reclaiming your control.
Ready?
Let’s get started!
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